People pleasers are liars.
The first time I heard that quote, I was a bit shocked. As a native New Yorker, I have a rather direct manner of speaking, and it feels more natural to just “say it like it is.” My words are often a little...
“The word ‘should’ is an enemy of growth and a thief of joy.”
―Kevin Ngo
The first time I heard the phrase “shoulding all over yourself,” I laughed. As a gastroenterologist, I have a particular affinity for poop...
“We’re afraid that the feeling of joy won’t last, or that the other shoe is going to drop. We think, ‘I’m feeling good, this can’t be right; something bad is going to happen.’”
—Brené Brown
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“If you have integrity, nothing else matters.
If you don’t have integrity, nothing else matters.”
–Harvey Mackay
Here’s something I never thought I’d say: I attended a conference for entrepreneurs. Over the years,...
“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”
—Brené Brown
In her book, I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t), Brené Brown takes the time to distinguish the difference between guilt...
“Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax.”
—Mark Black
In August 2022, I gave myself one job: Do nothing. My goal was to rest, rejuvenate and relax. I have spent so much of my life hustling and achieving that a much-needed rest was undoubtedly in order....
“When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time.”
—Byron Katie
Control is an illusion. We all know that to be true. We can be diligent about planning, coordinating, and scheduling and even leave a margin...
“Life does not change if you only modify the content,
your life will change if you will dare to alter the context.”
–Santosh Kalwar
Have you heard the commencement speech given by David Foster Wallace, called This Is Water? I hadn’t....
Balance does not mean that everything gets equal weighting all the time
One of the biggest struggles of my adult life has been the elusive idea of work-life balance. It seems like a simple concept. First, determine your priorities. Then, live your...
“Once you accept your flaws, no one can use them against you.”
Tyrion Lannister, Game of Thrones
I like to tell the story about the evening I met my wife. We were out to dinner with a group of people, and she was sitting across the table...
What is this self inside us, this silent observer,
Severe and speechless critic , who can terrorize us
And urge us on to futile activity
And in the end, judge us still more severely
For the errors into which his own reproaches drove us?
T. S. Eliot, The...
“Being a dad means being there for your pups through thick and thin, teaching them, playing with them, and showing them love every day. It’s the greatest adventure of all.”
―Bandit Heeler
If you have young children, you might be familiar with the...