The Illusion of Control balance coaching feelings Sep 20, 2022

 

 

“When I argue with reality, I losebut only 100% of the time.” 

Byron Katie

 

 

 

Control is an illusion.  We all know that to be true.  We can be diligent about planning, coordinating, and scheduling and even...

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Comfort Doesn't Change You coaching feelings goals Sep 14, 2022

 

 

“Discomfort is the currency of your dreams.”

--Brooke Castillo

 

 

According to Google, comfort is a state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint.  Just reading that makes me feel more relaxed.  Comfort is quiet, warm,...

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Put An End To Your Inner Critic balance coaching feelings Sep 07, 2022

 

 

 

What is this self inside us, this silent observer,

Severe and speechless critic , who can terrorize us

And urge us on to futile activity

And in the end, judge us still more severely

For the errors into which his own reproaches drove us?

--T. S. Eliot, The Elder...

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No More People Pleasing balance coaching Jul 26, 2022

 

 

 People pleasers are liars.  

 

 

The first time I heard that phrase, I was a bit shocked.  As a native New Yorker, I have a rather direct manner of speaking, and it feels more natural to just “say it like it is.” My words are often a little...

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Let Go Of Your Story coaching Jul 20, 2022

 

 

 

What is a story?  When I think of a story, I think of a fairy tale.  An imaginary account that has been concocted for entertainment.  It may also serve to teach a lesson or prevent harm.  Some stories may be rooted in reality, but many have a...

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Unpacking Feelings coaching goals Jul 13, 2022

 



Everything you want is on the other side of something you don’t want to feel



Pop culture would have you believe that feeling your feelings is commonplace.  When I was going through my list of possible songs to link to this post, it was clear that people like to talk about (and...

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The Audible Eye Roll: Reclaiming The Parts Of You That You Don't Like balance coaching Jun 29, 2022

 



I like to tell the story about the evening I met my wife.  We were out to dinner with a group of people, and she was sitting across the table from me.  As a friend said something annoying, I locked eyes with the stranger across the table and proceeded to roll my eyes.  She...

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When You Get Squeezed balance coaching May 11, 2022

 

 

“When you squeeze an orange, you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside. The same logic applies to you: when someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness,...

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Dear Physician Coaching Skeptic coaching Mar 30, 2022

 

 

Dear Physician Coaching Skeptic,



I see you.  I hear you.  I was you.



I imagine many of you believe that I was always a die-hard fan of coaching.  You might even think I signed up for my first coaching program without hesitation or objection.  If you know me,...

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Finding The Gifts While Navigating Difficult Relationships balance coaching lifestyle Mar 16, 2022

 

 

It is incredible to look back at your life and recognize the critical moments that lead you to become the unique human being you are today.  Many people, places, and things needed to come together in just the right way to create your exact personality.  I would venture to...

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The Gift Of Coaching coaching Mar 02, 2022

 


I never saw myself as an athlete.  Little league was an indisputable disaster, and my confidence was shaken.  I did have a barbell and a bench and started lifting weights as a teenager.  It wasn’t a regular hobby, but I enjoyed it.  The weight lifting class in...

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