“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.”
—Eckhart Tolle
I have always been a worrier. When I was eight years old, I received a set of Guatemalan worry dolls. They were tiny woven figures that fit...
This past August, I gave myself one job: Do nothing. My goal was to rest, rejuvenate and relax. I have spent so much of my life hustling and achieving that a much-needed rest was undoubtedly in order. And guess what happened? I failed. ...
“When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time.”
—Byron Katie
Control is an illusion. We all know that to be true. We can be diligent about planning, coordinating, and scheduling and even...
“Discomfort is the currency of your dreams.”
--Brooke Castillo
According to Google, comfort is a state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint. Just reading that makes me feel more relaxed. Comfort is quiet, warm,...
What is this self inside us, this silent observer,
Severe and speechless critic , who can terrorize us
And urge us on to futile activity
And in the end, judge us still more severely
For the errors into which his own reproaches drove us?
--T. S. Eliot, The Elder...
Foreboding Joy. I didn’t make it up. I had never even heard of foreboding joy until I read Daring Greatly by Brené Brown. If you haven’t read Daring Greatly, stop what you are doing and get a copy. It is a fantastic...
“There” is no better than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”
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People pleasers are liars.
The first time I heard that phrase, I was a bit shocked. As a native New Yorker, I have a rather direct manner of speaking, and it feels more natural to just “say it like it is.” My words are often a little...
What is a story? When I think of a story, I think of a fairy tale. An imaginary account that has been concocted for entertainment. It may also serve to teach a lesson or prevent harm. Some stories may be rooted in reality, but many have a...
Everything you want is on the other side of something you don’t want to feel
Pop culture would have you believe that feeling your feelings is commonplace. When I was going through my list of possible songs to link to this post, it was clear that people like to talk about (and...
Balance does not mean that everything gets equal weighting all the time
One of the biggest struggles of my adult life has been the elusive idea of work-life balance. It seems like a simple concept. First, determine your priorities. Then, live your...
I like to tell the story about the evening I met my wife. We were out to dinner with a group of people, and she was sitting across the table from me. As a friend said something annoying, I locked eyes with the stranger across the table and proceeded to roll my eyes. She...